Custody and visitation exchanges are often a flashpoint for conflicts. This is true with or without an order for protection in place. Avoiding as much conflict as possible during this exchange is important because it can damage your children.
Here are some ways you can avoid conflict during a heated exchange.
Remain calm
This may seem like common sense, but it can be difficult in the heat of the moment. Keep your voice and mannerisms as calm and rational as possible, even if you are feeling anything but calm. If your ex-spouse wants to start an argument, do your best to avoid it and not argue back.
Choose your location wisely
Your exchange’s location is important, particularly if you have a protection order. A neutral location with witnesses present is best.
Follow the parenting plan precisely
This is true anytime but becomes particularly important when a protection order is in place. The court usually provides exchange or visitation orders for couples in a high-conflict divorce. This will help you to avoid a protection order violation.
Communicate openly
Things happen. Make sure to call or contact your ex-spouse if you are late. Not only is this a common courtesy, but it can also help you avoid anger issues.
Call law enforcement if things get out of hand
If the custody exchange turns into harassment, threats of violence or assault, call law enforcement to help. This is true even if you have a protection order against you. Do not let your ex-spouse goad you into violating the order.
Remember that your children are the most important part of a visitation or custody exchange. It will help them if things go as smoothly as possible.